Transgender / Nonbinary Education & Trainings

Trans and nonbinary people exist, and they deserve respect, recognition, and support. As such, it's important to learn about them—but that learning should be fun and exciting, not boring or punitive!

As of January 2023, in-person trainings are available in New Mexico, and virtual trainings are available everywhere! Check out our course offerings first, then head to the contact page if you'd like to get something scheduled.

TNET proudly supports TGRC Union!
© 2023 Stacy Fatemi & Charlie Alexander


TNET (Transgender/Nonbinary Education & Trainings) is an education-focused agency owned, founded, and staffed by trans educators Stacy Fatemi (they/them) and Charlie Alexander (they/them). TNET offers trainings, workshops, and print materials designed to help all people understand and interact with trans and nonbinary people more effectively.

A full-body photo of Stacy, who is wearing a simple necklace with a black jumpsuit and black boots. They're holding their arm.


Stacy Fatemi 🔊 (they/them) is a nonbinary trans educator from Albuquerque, New Mexico. After coming out as trans at the age of 17, Stacy began casually educating others to address a gap in gender knowledge that affected their everyday life. Now, at age 26, they do transgender trainings and workshops for organizations all around the country, with an added focus on nonbinary people and the issues they face.

Before TNET came to be, Stacy did trainings as the first Education & Outreach Program Manager for the Transgender Resource Center of New Mexico, and made educational works for the Health Equity Alliance for LGBTQ+ New Mexicans. They're also the author of Pronouns: What's the Big Deal?, an 8-page booklet that details the ins and outs of basic linguistic respect towards trans and nonbinary folks. When not at work, Stacy can be found making metal, punk, and ambient music with their longtime friend, the 6-string bass guitar.


A full-body photo of Charlie, who's wearing a striped long-sleeve shirt, a rainbow watch, jeans with a belt, and colorful boots. They're smiling and holding up a peace sign.

Charlie Alexander 🔊 (they/them) is a trans and nonbinary parent to two kids. After winding up pregnant at age 17 without access to any support, resources, or assistance, Charlie became ferociously passionate about educating folks on important topics such as sexual health, boundaries and consent, radical love, and all things sex-, sexuality-, and gender-related. They believe whole-heartedly that education is the foundation to liberation which led them to join Stacy in building TNET in January of 2023.

In 2022, Charlie earned two Bachelor of Arts degrees in Women, Gender, and Sexuality Studies and Sociology, as well as a Certificate in Race and Social Justice from the University of New Mexico. They plan to continue their educational journey in graduate school.

Charlie is passionate about intersectional feminism, disability justice, and transgender issues. They co-founded a disability justice group in 2021 called Crip Liberation. In their free time, Charlie enjoys reading, making art, roller skating, volunteering, and spending time with their sweet children.

Course offerings

Here are all the different trainings you can request. Each course has a duration, format, and audience listed. There is always time for questions and answers—and since we believe in good time management, the durations given for each training include all the time needed! More about format can be found in the FAQ.

We'll train any group of 5 or more people,* with no maximum for in-person trainings and a cap of 100 for virtual. We also do regularly scheduled virtual trainings, which are listed on the events page!

Courses are numbered for clarity of communication; they're not really strict indicators of the order the courses should be taken in.

*(What if I don't have 5 people?)

#101: Transgender Cultural Fluency ★

2 hours (why?) ~ In-person or virtual
For: Anyone and everyone!
Audience interaction level: 2 ••◦

The tried and true workhorse of trans education! Even old pros can learn a thing or two from this training. We'll cover everything you need to know from the ground up, get a little bit of practice in, and learn how we can all be better advocates. This is an excellent go-to for everyone to get on the same page and build up to greater levels of education together!

Extra content is available for medical professionals, educators, correctional workers, and legal professionals.

#123: School Best Practices for Trans & Nonbinary Students

1–1½ hours ~ In-person or virtual
For: Anyone who works with or in schools!
Audience interaction level: 1 •◦◦

School is a crucible for many, but especially so for trans and nonbinary kids. In fact, a quarter of trans kids in the US reported having to switch schools due to safety concerns in 2019! Different practices can make things a whole lot more bearable, though, from simple language to district-wide procedural directives. We'll take a look at many of these practices and show how they can impact the lives of trans youth for the better.

#178: Gender Outside the Binary

2 hours ~ In-person or virtual
For: All sorts of people!
Audience interaction level: 2 ••◦

What does it mean to be nonbinary? And what's it really like to be a nonbinary person? There are many answers, and they're all right! In this training, you can learn about nonbinary genders, transitions, relationships, moments of realization, and much more.

#202: Have Your Trans Intersectionality and Eat It Too

2 hours ~ In-person or virtual
For: Anyone who's got a grasp of the basics!
Audience interaction level: 1 •◦◦

What if a 201 was just better? It'd be this: a truly in-depth, vivid look at intersectionality and how it relates to transness! We'll look at the complex multiplicity of identities one can hold, and the many exponential impacts this can have on life and transition. Topics of discussion include race, ability, class, and even age!

#234: Busting the Binary in the English Language

2 hours ~ In-person recommended, virtual possible
For: Those who want tools, language, and practice!
Audience interaction level: 3 •••

Stacy's favorite workshop! Learn dozens of strategies for making gender-neutral language a habit in your everyday speech with this workshop. It's heavy on the participation, but never fear—with the provided 6-page worksheet, you can practice silently and build your confidence!

Future trainings

We're always working on new stuff! These are the big ideas we have right now. If you give us a month or two of advance notice, we'll double down and get one of these trainings ready for you, and you'll get a taste of something new!

#99: Gender Roles

1–1½ hours ~ In-person recommended
For: Groups that don't know where to start!

The best primer to a full-on trans training you ever did see! Stereotypes and expectations can affect our relationships, careers, and even food choices—they're impossible to get away from in a society as gendered as ours. In this course, we'll think of the gender roles that govern our culture, and dissect the impacts they have on us. A great intro for groups of all ages!

#187: Safe Silhouettes: Tucking & Binding Properly

1–1½ hours ~ In-person only
For: Trans/nonbinary people, and anyone who provides care to them!

Tucking and binding are two common practices by which a trans person's silhouette is flattened in certain areas. It's necessary for a lot of us to be able to feel comfortable and draw less attention to ourselves, but it's oftentimes done in less-than-ideal ways. In this workshop (led by people who have real-life experience with each of these practices), participants will learn how to tuck and bind in the safest ways possible, find out how to make it more sustainable, and get some quality guidance on all sorts of specific situations!

#193: Building Better Bathrooms

1 hour ~ In-person recommended
For: Any group in a building they have control over!

Gender-neutral bathrooms are always good to have in public buildings. The implementation, however, often leaves a lot to be desired. Ever have to wait in line for the bathroom at a house party? That's because restrooms inside houses aren't just gender-neutral—they're also single-serve. Let's figure out how to make gender-neutrality exceptionally viable in all sorts of buildings, from practical concerns to signage!

#300: Transgender Culture & History

2–4 hours ~ In-person or virtual
For: Trans/nonbinary people, anyone who's taken a 200-level course, and anyone who's curious!

Did you know that there are "trans moms" and "trans dads" who aren't parents? Or that there was a whole institute in the 1930's dedicated to advancing trans rights? Prepare to have your minds blown with the rich, storied history of transness in the Western world, and all the cultural hallmarks that make our communities thrive today!

#312: Putting the Trans Inclusion Back in Feminism

1–3 hours ~ In-person or virtual
For: Queer/feminist groups, GSAs, and ERGs!

Trans-exclusionary ideology is frighteningly common, even in progressive spaces. As it turns out, this ideology actually has a couple of base beliefs that inform the rest of it. Let's name those, and figure out how to change our way of thinking about gender for the better!

Have an idea for another course? (Maybe one that we can collaborate on?) Send us an email and let us know!

© 2023 Stacy Fatemi & Charlie Alexander


We strongly encourage masking at all in-person trainings. This keeps us safe, and keeps everyone else safe, too. As public speakers, we need to be able to use our voices to their full capacities all the time. Even a minor cold can negatively impact our work.

We wear our masks when we present, but we always make sure to project and enunciate enough to be understood. If you'd like us to not wear our masks, we will need every other human being in the room to be wearing theirs at all times.


"Stacy is an amazing presenter. They are highly organized, knowledgeable, and enthusiastic in helping workshop participants increase their awareness of and use of gender neutral language by offering insightful information and multiple opportunities to practice. I highly recommend that administrators or professional development providers at any university or school consider inviting Stacy to offer a workshop for faculty and staff." ―Elaine Silva Mangiante, PhD (Salve Regina University Education Department)

"I recently had the pleasure of attending a presentation by Stacy on gender and transness. Their presentation was incredibly well put together and refined, both in terms of content and visual aids. I thought I knew a lot about the issue prior, but Stacy really helped solidify my understanding and answer my outstanding questions. My peers who knew very little about the topic previously found it helpful in navigating pronouns, topics about trans and other queer people, and generally feel more comfortable discussing related topics and interacting with people with LGBTQ+ identities. In fact, some have already started using my preferred pronouns (I am fine with she/her but prefer they/them), which makes me feel more supported and comfortable in the space we share. Stacy was both very open about their own experiences as a nonbinary trans person and prepared with the science to back those experiences up. They have clearly put a lot of effort into figuring out how best to inform the lay person about these issues. I cannot thank them enough for the energy they have spent on this and I think everyone can learn something from Stacy’s presentations. If I get the opportunity to attend another presentation by Stacy, you can bet I’ll be in the audience. Thank you, Stacy!" ―Lauren Boulanger

"That was so amazing!!!! Wow. Wow. Wow. Stacy is an incredible presenter. One of my teammates said they feel like they attended an actual Ted Talk. Stacy has an amazing energy. The CONTENT was nothing short of superb. The fruits, the addressing sex vs gender. The they/them debacle which has been one of my own struggles, candidly. I think they finally sealed that deal for my stubborn brain. I simply cannot say enough good things. Sincerely. As one of your trans siblings, you represented us AMAZINGLY. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you!" ―Mark Alexander

"Stacy's presentation on trans and nonbinary identities was eye-opening. They provided a safe space to learn and to participate in while also remaining friendly and professional. I thought the language used was easily accessible to anyone wanting to learn more and perfect for those people who may not fully understand trans and nonbinary identities. I left the presentation pondering ways I can be more inclusive and understanding! I can also say that I feel 110% more informed about this beautiful world we all live in, and motivated to learn even more about the trans and nonbinary community." ―Jared Mills


If you're unsure where to start, please schedule a consultation call with us so we can figure out what works best for you and your group! If you already know what you want, you can schedule a training with the button below. Lastly, if you just want to ask a question, you can either hit the button or call or email us directly.If you'd like to know more about prices for the courses, please visit the pricing page.


Transgender/Nonbinary Education & Trainings
Albuquerque, NM, USA

Phone: +1 (505) 219-1949
Instagram: @tnet.trainings

Stacy Fatemi


Charlie Alexander


Frequently Asked Questions

1. Format

1.1 In-person trainings

1.1.1: What do you need for in-person trainings?

An address, a place to park, directions to the room, and a way to display my slides! Either a big TV screen or a projector work just fine. Please take note of this, though: if the projector in the training room is wireless, we will need to know in advance so we can download the necessary drivers. Please let us know the brand and model of the projector, as well as any other connection info we might need to pair one of our computers to it.

We always bring a laptop of our own with the slides on it, but we try to have a flash drive with us too just in case. All our presentations are local files, so we don't need an internet connection at all unless we need to broadcast the training from my computer or unexpectedly download any projector drivers.

If 40 or more people will be in attendance, we’ll probably need amplification so we don’t have to yell. We try to bring our own PA and mic to all trainings just in case, but we don't always have them available.

1.1.2: Do you host in-person trainings yourself?

No, we unfortunately don't have the space for that. If you don't either, let's do a virtual training!

1.1.3: Do you require masking?

We try to! Since we're guests in every space we enter, we don't have the power to truly require it. We did write a little about it here, though. TL;DR: it's strongly encouraged—we're professional voice users, so even a mild cold can get us down.

1.1.4: Can I get an in-person training outside of New Mexico?

Yes! It'll be more expensive and harder to schedule, though. We'll need travel expenses covered, and to block off enough time on the training calendar to get there and back.

1.1.5: How should the room be arranged?

Hey, as long as everyone can see/hear the content and there is at least one (1) chair near the computer, arrange the room however you'd like! We know that some attendees like to take notes on paper, so it might be good to have at least a few tables/desks, but you know your group and room better than we do.

If you have any control over which room you use, definitely pick one that isn't super echo-y (for the sake of your comprehension and our sanity).

1.1.6: Is there a minimum or maximum audience size?

We'll train any group of 5 or more people! That is, if at least 5 people are expected to show up, we'll do the training (even if less than 5 people are actually there on the day of). There's no maximum for in-person trainings, as long as everyone can access the content and we're not breaking fire code.

1.1.7: What if I don't have 5 people?

There are two solutions to this! First, you could invite your friends to bring your total numbers up to 5. (It doesn't have to be a formal affair; we've trained in people's living rooms before.)

Second, you could attend a regularly-scheduled virtual training event! On the events page, you can see every open-to-the-public training that's coming up. We plan to host at least one session of every currently-offered training every month, so even if you can't make the next one, you might be able to make it to the one after that.

1.2 Virtual trainings

1.2.1: What is a virtual training?

A virtual training is one that we present via a meeting software (like Zoom), where every audience member is joining from their own device (and thus each have their own camera and mic). There's a chat where people can ask questions, there are audio controls, and there are ways to manage the experience with keystrokes and mouse clicks. If there's any difference from this regarding where people are and how they're joining, it's a hybrid training, which is detailed below.

1.2.2: Do you do hybrid trainings?

It depends what you mean. We've seen three main types:

Broadcast hybrid is where the two of us are (Charlie and Stacy) doing the training in the same room as the group, but part of the group is watching the training from a different location. There is literally no problem with this, as long as we don't have to broadcast it ourselves. If we do have to broadcast it ourselves, we can sort that out beforehand.

Postage stamp hybrid is where the training group is all in one room, and the two of us aren't. It's so named because our view of the entire room is condensed to the size of a postage stamp on our screen. This isn't ideal; we're projected as flat images, can't interact with the audience in a meaningful way, and don't get to optimize the setup of the room. It's possible to make this better, though. Using a good camera pointed closely at the audience, and a high-quality microphone that every audience members knows to approach and talk into when speaking, this can be a viable format.

Reverse hybrid is where we're in the same room as the tech person/training liaison, and the entire group of attendees is watching the training remotely, for some reason. Don't... don't do this. Please.

1.2.3: What platform do you prefer?


1.2.4: Would you rather make the link yourselves?


1.2.5: Is there a minimum or maximum audience size for virtual trainings?

The 5-person minimum for in-person trainings still holds here, but we can only have 100 participants on Zoom. If your organization can support more (whether it's on Zoom or a different platform), go for it! We'd be happy to use a provided link as long as Live Transcription is enabled. We'll note here that as virtual audience sizes surpass 50, the need for chat moderation starts becoming apparent. Whichever one of us isn't actively speaking will usually do it regardless, but it's always good to have someone from the org watch the chat too when there are that many attendees.

1.2.6: Are you okay with recordings of your training for those who couldn't make it to the session?

Yes, on two conditions:

  1. That the recording is only distributed to the members of the group that the training is for; and

  2. That the recording is destroyed after everyone has watched it, or 28 days after it is received.

These trainings change somewhat frequently. We're always working on ways to improve them, whether it's in terms of making them more interactive or updating them to stay with the times. For that reason, we don't really like having old recordings floating around, especially outside of the groups they were intended for.

1.2.7: Can you make a video of the training instead?

In certain situations, yes! Now, it is always best for people to be able to attend the trainings in some way. The interactive component really helps with learning (as does having a real-life trans person there to answer questions), along with a whole host of other things that would be too long to list. That being said, sometimes a video is actually the best solution.

Sometimes, you can't schedule a decently-sized group all at the same time for a whole hour or two to do nothing but a training, and even if you can, you might not make a dent in the total amount of people who need the training. We've seen this in state correctional institutions, as well as in other organizations that either have a high turnover or maintain an intranet-based portal for their members.

At any rate, if a video is right for your group, let us know! It'll be more expensive than a regular training, since we'll have to take pains to personalize things and make them more engaging, but we'll put our hearts and souls into it to make sure it serves the purpose it needs to. (We've both sat through enough boring Zoom recordings to know that videos need to be structured differently to keep one's attention.)

2. Scheduling

2.1 How to schedule

2.1.1: How do I schedule a training?

Fill out the form! We'll get in touch with you to iron out the time, date, and format. If you need some questions answered beforehand, just send both (or either) of us an email. Our addresses are and

2.2 Days and times

2.2.1: What days usually work best for you?

Any, really.

2.2.2: What about times?

Stacy: I'm not exactly a morning person. I try not to schedule anything before 11:00am Mountain Time if I can help it, but we work of off your schedule. If it has to be in the morning, it'll be in the morning—and by golly, it'll be a great training no matter what time it's at! If I'm the lead presenter (like for the #234), I'm more than happy to do an evening training!

Charlie: I prefer mornings if I'm the lead presenter (like for the #202).

2.2.3: Can you do weekends?

Yes! We get asked for weekends seldom enough that we usually don't have to move anything around to accommodate it, either.

2.3 Duration and structure

2.3.1: Can you split a training into two halves?

We can and we have! All we ask is that each half is less than a week apart in time. If they're spaced out longer, the material starts to get difficult to remember when coming back.

2.3.2: Do you take questions during the training, or after?

Both, if it's a virtual training! We've tried to do both for in-person trainings sometimes, but that can lead to us running out of time, since we can't defer getting and subsequently answering the questions. We always make sure there's time at the end for questions, though, even if we can't get to them in the middle.

3. Payment

3.1 Pricing

3.1.1: Do you charge taxes?

Yes! It's usually 7.625% in Albuquerque, as well as for in-person trainings outside New Mexico, and for virtual trainings. If you provide us with a Type 5 NTTC, we'll happily remove the tax from our invoices for you!

For in-person trainings in New Mexico but outside the city limits, please check this map provided by New Mexico Taxation & Revenue.

Tax is calculated after adding mileage (if any).

3.1.2: So, you charge for mileage?

Yes, $0.63 per mile if it's an in-person training outside the Albuquerque metro area! If the address is in Albuquerque, Rio Rancho, Bernalillo, Placitas, Corrales, Los Ranchos de Albuquerque, Carnuel, or the South Valley, no mileage will be charged. The number of miles can be calculated by opening up your favorite navigation app, entering "Albuquerque" as your start point, entering your address as the end point, and then doubling the resulting number of miles.

3.1.3: Can I seriously get a free training?

Yup! Lack of funds should never be a barrier to receiving education, and we will die on that hill.

3.1.4: Can I pay an amount that's not $0 or $300?

Indeed, you can! Just tell us how much to charge you and we'll reflect that in the invoice.

3.1.5: Does the standard $300 rate scale with audience size?

Nope. Whether it's for 5 people or 100 people, it's still $300. Again, you can pay us more if you really want to.

3.2 Methods

3.2.1: Do you take cards? Checks? Cash?

Yes, yes, and yes! We use Stripe to enable payment by card. If you want to pay by check, you can send it to us in the mail. And if it's an in-person training, you can hand us the cash after the training if you have it!

3.2.2: What are your payment methods in order of preference?

  1. ACH Direct Deposit

  2. Check

  3. Cash

  4. Card

4. Misc.

4.1: Do you offer CEUs? CMEs? CLEs?

We can, if your organization accredits us! We have our résumés and learning objectives all fired up and ready to go. Apart from that, though, we're not independently accredited.


If you can pay, it's $300 per training; that's $323.25 after tax.* (We won't object to being paid more, by the way.)

If you can't pay, it's free! We've charged $0 before, and we'll do it again! Part of believing in accessibility means believing in zero-cost education. Yes, payment helps us pay the bills and enables us to continue doing trainings at this scale, but the free trainings are the ones that make it all worth it for us. So don't be shy!

*We've recently raised our standard price from $250, since we're now two people that rely solely on TNET's revenue to bring you high-quality education; the higher price helps even out the trainings that we give away! Making our trainings accessible takes time and work, and we're always learning more about how we can accommodate a variety of audiences. See the FAQ or email us for more details.

A payment realized by putting cash into Stacy's open hand: two hundred-dollar bills and a fifty. The payer has a rainbow wristwatch, a bead bracelet, a hand tattoo, and a wrist tattoo.

Why 2 hours?

When an introductory transgender training is less than two hours in length, two things happen. First, the participants may attain a false sense of confidence in their knowledge of the material, which can lead to poor outcomes for the trans people they may interact with. Second, we end up having to rush (which makes the intelligibility take a hit), because it's not possible to cover all the necessary material in a shorter period of time. And yes, it's all necessary! We can't call it a full #101 if everybody leaves without knowing how to use pronouns, or what gender expression is. Every topic is key.

If you don't have full two-hour blocks in your schedule for a training, worry not! We can and have split trainings into hour-long segments, separated by a week or less. In fact, splitting it gives people more time to digest the material, and it can lead to better results!

#101: Transgender Cultural Fluency (Outline)

This training covers the following:

  • Definitions of “the big four” concepts necessary to fully understand transness: sex, gender, expression, and orientation;

  • Definitions of “trans(gender)”, “cis(gender)”, and “nonbinary”;

  • The importance of learning about this topic;

  • A deconstruction of common gender norms, expectations, and stereotypes;

  • The prevalence of transness, historically and presently;

  • Models of gender that help conceptualize how nonbinary people fit in;

  • A wealth of information on pronouns;

  • How and why people transition, and the processes that may be involved;

  • Issues faced by trans and nonbinary people;

  • How to be a good advocate for the trans community; and

  • Stacy and Charlie's own stories!

— TNET —

Oh, hey, you actually followed the link! We're not done with the annotated bibliography yet. Check back soon and hopefully it'll be up.

For now, here's an incomplete list of our cited sources.

  1. Fausto-Sterling, Anne. Sex/Gender: Biology in a Social World, Taylor & Francis Group, 2012. ProQuest Ebook Central,

  2. Green, Richard. “Robert Stoller’s Sex and Gender: 40 Years On.” Archives of Sexual Behavior 39, 1457–1465 (2010).

  3. Hyde, Janet Shibley, et al. "The Future of Sex and Gender in Psychology: Five Challenges to the Gender Binary." (2018).

  4. Muehlenhard, C.L., Peterson, Z.D. “Distinguishing Between Sex and Gender: History, Current Conceptualizations, and Implications.” Sex Roles 64, 791–803 (2011).

  5. Unger, Rhoda K. "Toward a redefinition of sex and gender." American Psychologist 34.11 (1979): 1085.

  6. Richards, Christina, et al. “Non-Binary or Genderqueer Genders.” International Review of Psychiatry, no. 1, 2016, p. 95.

  7. James, Sandy, et al. "The report of the 2015 US transgender survey." (2016).

  8. Ingraham, C., 2022. The surprising geography of American left-handedness. [online] Washington Post. Available at:

  9. Roscoe, Will. “Priests of the Goddess: Gender Transgression in Ancient Religion.” History of Religions, vol. 35, no. 3, University of Chicago Press, 1996, pp. 195–230,

#123: School Best Practices for Trans/Nonbinary Students

  1. Schools in Transition (American Civil Liberties Union, National Center for Lesbian Rights, Gender Spectrum, National Education Association, Human Rights Campaign)

  2. Like Walking through a Hailstorm (Human Rights Watch)

  3. Best Practices for Serving LGBT Students (Southern Poverty Law Center’s Teaching Tolerance)

  4. Model School District Policy on Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Students (GLSEN, National Center for Transgender Equality)

  5. Examples of Policies and Emerging Practices for Supporting Transgender Students (Dept. of Ed)

  6. Model Local Education Agency Policy On Transgender and Nonbinary Students (GLSEN, National Center for Transgender Equality)

  7. Best Practices for School Counselors Serving Transgender Students (Henry & Grubbs 2016)

  8. Supporting Transgender and Gender Diverse Students in Schools (APA Divisions 16, 44)

  9. Transgender Students in Elementary School: Creating an Affirming and Inclusive School Culture (Mangin 2020)

  10. It's OK to Say "They” (San Diego Pride)

  11. Suggested Best Practices for Supporting Trans* Students (Consortium of Higher Education LGBT Resource Professionals)

  12. Supporting Transgender Students: Understanding Gender Identity and Reshaping School Culture (Myers 2021)

  13. The Educator's Guide to LGBT+ Inclusion (Shane 2020)

  14. Transgender People and Education (Bartholomaeus 2018)

  15. Navigating Gender and Sexuality in the Classroom (McEntarfer 2016)

  16. Teaching, Affirming and Recognizing Trans and Gender Creative Youth (Miller 2019)

  17. Teaching Gender and Sexuality at School (Goldstein 2019)

  18. Gay, Lesbian, and Transgender Issues in Education: Programs, Policies, and Practices (Sears 2005)

  19. Legal Guidance on Transgender Student Rights (NEA)

  20. Continuing Best Practices for School Regarding Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Students (Vermont Agency of Education)

  21. Guidelines to Support Transgender and Gender Expansive Students (NYC Dept. of Ed)

  22. Transgender Student Guidance for School Districts (New Jersey Dept. of Ed)

  23. Guidelines Regarding the Support of Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Students (Chicago Public Schools)

  24. Model Policies for the Treatment of Transgender Students in Virginia's Public Schools (Virginia Dept. of Ed)

  25. Guidance on Supports for Transgender Students (Hawaii Dept. of Ed)

  26. Guidance to School Districts for Creating Safe and Supportive School Environments for Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Students (USNY State Ed Dept.)

  27. Transgender Inclusion (Society of Health and Physical Educators)

  28. Guidance for Massachusetts Public Schools in Creating a Safe and Supportive School Environment (Massachusetts Dept. of Elementary and Secondary Ed)

  29. Guidance to School Districts: Creating a Safe and Supportive School Environment for Transgender Students (Oregon Dept. of Ed)

  30. Providing Safe Spaces for Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Youth (Maryland Public Schools)

  31. Guidance on Safe and Supportive Learning Environments for LGBT Students (Michigan Dept. of Ed)

  32. Non-Discrimination for Students: Gender Identity and Expression (Albuquerque Public Schools)

#234: Busting the Binary in the English Language (Outline)

This workshop covers the following:

  • An overview of why gender-neutral language is important, and what it is exactly;

  • How to use trans people's names properly, and how to avoid using deadnames;

  • A good deal of information about singular they;

  • How to use neopronouns (like xe/xym and fae/faer);

  • How to talk about someone who doesn't use pronouns;

  • How to practice pronouns;

  • Some strategies for managing the spread of information, and correcting others when they misgender trans/nonbinary people;

  • Uses of the word one;

  • Pointing people out in a crowd;

  • Using role instead of gender;

  • Alternatives to common forms of address, like sir/ma'am, Mr./Ms./Mrs., familial terms, and more;

  • Alternatives for masculine generics in general speech/writing;

  • Different forms of metonymy;

  • "People with" constructions for discussing anatomy and physiological processes; and

  • Passive voice.

Here's how my name, Stacy Fatemi, is pronounced:

If that audio file doesn't work for you, here are some ways you might be able to figure out how to pronounce it.

  • "Fatemi" has the same vowels and stress pattern as "spaghetti". That is, the second syllable is stressed, and the vowels are like this:

  • The A is an "uh" sound (like in "cut");

  • The E is an "eh" sound (like in "them");

  • And the I is a long "ee" sound (like in "be").

  • So, you might write "Fatemi" phonetically as fuh-TEH-mee.

  • In the International Phonetic Alphabet, my pronunciation of "Fatemi" would be written [fəˈtʰɛːmiː].

  • If you pronounce "Fatemi" with Spanish phonetics, you'll get close enough.

Here's how my name, Charlie Alexander, is pronounced:

In the International Phonetic Alphabet, my pronunciation of "Charlie Alexander" would be written [ˈt͡ʃɑːɹɫi ˌæɫɪɡˈzæːndɚ].

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If you want a training, but don't have a group of 5 or more, you're in luck! Below are all the upcoming virtual public sessions that you can attend.

The suggested ticket cost is $20 per person. As trans people, we appreciate getting paid for our time, energy, and work! If you can't pay that much, or want to pay us more than that, you can name your price at the payment links below each of the training descriptions!

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Past Events

July 2023

Saturday, July 15th, 2023
12:00pm–1:00pm Mountain Time (convert timezone)

#101: Transgender Cultural Fluency

Presented by Stacy Fatemi & Charlie Alexander

The tried and true workhorse of trans education! Even old pros can learn a thing or two from this training. We'll cover everything you need to know from the ground up, get a little bit of practice in, and learn how we can all be better advocates. This is the 1-hour version of the #101, so come and get a taste!

May 2023

Wednesday, May 17, 2023
6:00pm–8:00pm Mountain Time (convert timezone)

#101: Transgender Cultural Fluency

Presented by Stacy Fatemi & Charlie Alexander

The tried and true workhorse of trans education! Even old pros can learn a thing or two from this training. We'll cover everything you need to know from the ground up, get a little bit of practice in, and learn how we can all be better advocates. Audience interaction is encouraged, especially in the first half hour. There will be a 5-minute intermission, and questions will be answered!

April 2023

Monday, April 17, 2023
3:00pm–5:00pm Mountain Time (convert timezone)

#234: Busting the Binary in the English Language

Presented by Stacy Fatemi

Make gender-neutral language a habit in your everyday speech with this workshop! We'll be learning a couple dozen different strategies, including how to use specific pronouns like xe/xym, how to talk about nonbinary people (and anyone whose gender you don't know), a plethora of alternatives to various forms of address, and even ways to correct misgenderings!

NEW: There's now a worksheet you can fill out during the workshop, so you can do the activities on your own and get all the practice you can get! You'll receive a link to it in the same email that the Zoom link comes in. Register early so you can print it out (if you want), or fill it out digitally on your web browser or PDF viewer!

Wednesday, April 5, 2023
6:00pm–8:00pm Mountain Time (convert timezone)

#101: Transgender Cultural Fluency

Presented by Stacy Fatemi

March 2023

Saturday, March 11, 2023
12:00pm–2:00pm Mountain Time (convert timezone)

#101: Transgender Cultural Fluency

Presented by Stacy Fatemi

February 2023

Tuesday, February 28, 2023
7:00pm–9:00pm Mountain Time (convert timezone)

#234: Busting the Binary in the English Language

Presented by Stacy Fatemi

Sunday, February 12, 2023
11:00am–1:00pm Mountain Time (convert timezone)

#101: Transgender Cultural Fluency

Presented by Stacy Fatemi


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