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TNET (Transgender/Nonbinary Education & Trainings) is an education-focused agency owned, founded, and staffed by trans educators Stacy Fatemi (they/them) and Charlie Alexander (they/them). TNET offers trainings, workshops, and print materials designed to help all people understand and interact with trans and nonbinary people more effectively.

Stacy Fatemi 🔊 (they/them) is a nonbinary trans educator of color from Albuquerque, New Mexico. After coming out as trans at the age of 17, Stacy began casually educating others to address a gap in gender knowledge that affected their everyday life. Now, at age 27, they are passionate about educating people on gender-neutral language, physical transition-related topics, and equitable access for trans athletes.

Before TNET came to be, Stacy did trainings as the first Education & Outreach Program Manager for the Transgender Resource Center of New Mexico, and made educational works for the Health Equity Alliance for LGBTQ+ New Mexicans. They're also the author of Pronouns: What's the Big Deal?, an 8-page booklet that details the ins and outs of basic linguistic respect towards trans and nonbinary folks. When not at work, Stacy can be found making metal, punk, and ambient music with their longtime friend, the 6-string bass guitar.

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Here are all the different trainings you can request. Each course has a duration, format, and audience listed. There is always time for questions and answers—and since we believe in good time management, the durations given for each training include all the time needed! More about format can be found in the FAQ.

We'll train any group of 5 or more people,* with no maximum audience size. We also do regularly scheduled public trainings, which are listed on the TNET Store Events page!

We recommend starting with a 100-level course, because those will have more basic concepts and provide a foundation for the 200-level courses. Here's the breakdown for each category:

100-level courses: Entry-level courses that introduce basic information and terms. We recommend you start here if you don't know a lot about these topics, you have an uneven level of understanding throughout the group, or want to lay a sturdy foundation for additional trainings!

200-level courses: Meatier topics. We recommend you start here if you already have a solid understanding of the basic concepts and want to build upon your existing knowledge.

300-level courses: The meatiest! We recommend you start here if you are trans/nonbinary. Otherwise, come back to these when you've taken some 100- and 200-level courses. These are highly specialized (and oftentimes long) trainings that require a rock-solid foundation to fully digest and appreciate.

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#101: Transgender Cultural Fluency ★

2 hours (why?) ~ In-person or virtual
For: Anyone and everyone!
Audience interaction level: 2 ••◦

The tried and true workhorse of trans education! Even old pros can learn a thing or two from this training. We'll cover everything you need to know from the ground up, get a little bit of practice in, and learn how we can all be better advocates. This is an excellent go-to for everyone to get on the same page and build up to greater levels of education together!

Extra content is available for medical professionals, educators, correctional workers, and legal professionals.

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#123: School Best Practices for Trans & Nonbinary Students

2 hours, incl. 30-minute Q&A ~ In-person or virtual
For: Anyone who works with or in schools!
Audience interaction level: 1 •◦◦

School is a crucible for many, but especially so for trans and nonbinary kids. In fact, a quarter of trans kids in the US reported having to switch schools due to safety concerns in 2019! Different practices can make things a whole lot more bearable, though, from simple language to district-wide procedural directives. We'll take a look at many of these practices and show how they can impact the lives of trans youth for the better.

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#131: Consent, Boundaries, Gender, and You

2 hours ~ In-person or virtual
For: Anyone who has a body!
Audience interaction level: 2 ••◦

Consent and setting boundaries around intimacy and bodies are some of the most important proficiencies a human being can have. But is any of that different for trans people? Absolutely, so let's talk about it! In this workshop, we'll take a look at the intricacies of consent, what "yes" and "no" feel like, and how to navigate power dynamics in a consensual way. We'll also discuss how to have important conversations around these topics, and go over some tips for safety planning should a situation go awry. If you think you know everything there is to know about consent, boundaries, and how it all relates to gender, just remember: it's something we can all be better at!

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#178: Gender Outside the Binary

2 hours ~ In-person or virtual
For: All sorts of people!
Audience interaction level: 2 ••◦

What does it mean to be nonbinary? And what's it really like to be a nonbinary person? There are many answers, and they're all right! In this training, you can learn about nonbinary genders, transitions, relationships, moments of realization, and much more.

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#202: Have Your Trans Intersectionality and Eat It Too

2 hours ~ In-person or virtual
For: Anyone who's got a grasp of the basics!
Audience interaction level: 1 •◦◦
Recommended prerequisite: #101 or equivalent knowledge (see #101 outline)

What if a 201 was just better? It'd be this: a truly in-depth, vivid look at the layered cake of intersectionality and how it relates to transness! We'll look at the complex multiplicity of identities one can hold, and the many exponential impacts this can have on life and transition. Topics of discussion include race, ability, class, and even age!

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#249: Gender Exploration with Young People

2–2½ hours ~ In-person or virtual
For: Adults who work with young people!
Audience interaction level: 3 •••
Recommended prerequisite: #101 or equivalent knowledge (see #101 outline)

Talking about gender and sexuality with young people can seem daunting and uncomfortable, because sometimes we don't even know where to start. However, having the right tools can give you confidence in navigating those conversations—so, here’s a chance to practice pertinent strategies for respect, affirmation, and compassion! We'll bust some myths about transness and youth, learn about childism and the forms it can take, and use some real-world scenarios to polish our skills in this interactive workshop. Worksheets will be provided.

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#M01: Preparing Patients for Life After Vaginoplasty

1–2 hours ~ In-person or virtual
For: Gender-affirming surgeons, gynecologists, primary care providers, and mental health professionals!
Audience interaction level: 1 •◦◦

What's it really like to get vaginoplasty? And are we adequately preparing patients for life with a brand-new body part? Historically, vaginoplasty is a surgery that has rarely been discussed with openness or accuracy. This has led to a lack of information, and has contributed to the negative stigma around gender-affirming bottom surgery. Patients are often left in the dark, even about details as major as sex and pleasure, and as minor as how to wipe. Led by vaginoplasty recipient Stacy Fatemi, this workshop builds on the relatively small body of public knowledge with a plethora of lived experience regarding the intricacies of recovery and the joy of gender euphoria.

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One of our principal values at TNET is that of accessibility. That is, we believe our content and the education we provide should have as few barriers to access as possible. Here are some of the ways we try to improve accessibility:

We are always willing to do better. If there is something that would make our content more accessible to you, please let us know!

We strongly encourage masking at all in-person trainings. This keeps us safe, and keeps everyone else safe, too. As public speakers, we need to be able to use our voices to their full capacities all the time. Even a minor cold can negatively impact our work.

Masking also supports one of our core values—that of disability justice. When everyone masks, it helps immunocompromised people (as well as those with immunocompromised loved ones) be more included in the activities we offer.

We wear our masks when we present, but we always make sure to project and enunciate enough to be understood. If you'd like us to not wear our masks, we will need every other human being in the room to be wearing theirs at all times.

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If you're unsure where to start, please schedule a call with us so we can figure out what works best for you and your group! If you already know what you want, you can schedule a training with the button below. Lastly, if you just want to ask a question, you can either hit the button or call or email us directly.If you'd like to know more about prices for the courses, please visit the pricing page.

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Transgender/Nonbinary Education & Trainings
Albuquerque, NM, USA

Phone: +1 (505) 219-1949
Email: contact@transeducation.net
Instagram: @tnet.trainings

Stacy Fatemi

Email: stacy@transeducation.net

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1. Format

1.1.1: What do you need for in-person trainings?

An address, a place to park, directions to the room, and a way to display our slides! Either a big TV screen or a projector work just fine. Please take note of this, though: if the projector in the training room is wireless, we will need to know in advance so we can download the necessary drivers. Please let us know the brand and model of the projector, as well as any other connection info we might need to pair one of our computers to it.

We always bring a laptop of our own with the slides on it, but we try to have a flash drive with us too just in case. All our presentations are local files, so we don't need an internet connection at all unless we need to broadcast the training from my computer, unexpectedly need to download any projector drivers, or need to enable Live Transcription on PowerPoint.

If 40 or more people will be in attendance, we’ll probably need amplification so we don’t have to yell. We try to bring our own PA and mic to all trainings just in case, but we don't always have them available. Plus, knowing how many people will attend is helpful because some of our trainings come with a companion worksheet/handout.

1.1.2: Do you host in-person trainings yourself?

No, we unfortunately don't have the space for that. If you don't either, let's do a virtual training!

1.1.3: Do you require masking?

We try to! Since we're guests in every space we enter, we don't have the power to truly require it. We did write a little about it here, though. TL;DR: it's strongly encouraged—we're professional voice users, so even a mild cold can get us down. We also believe in disability justice which means masking is an ethical factor for us. We will always enter your spaces masked.

1.1.4: Can I get an in-person training outside of New Mexico?

Yes! It'll be more expensive and harder to schedule, though. We'll need travel expenses covered, and to block off enough time on the training calendar to get there and back.

1.1.5: How should the room be arranged?

Hey, as long as everyone can see/hear the content and there is at least one (1) chair near the computer, arrange the room however you'd like! We know that some attendees like to take notes on paper, so it might be good to have at least a few tables/desks, but you know your group and room better than we do.

If you have any control over which room you use, definitely pick one that isn't super echo-y (for the sake of your comprehension and our sanity). If there will be interpreters or other accommodations for audience members, be sure to account for that, too, when considering room size and placements of furniture.

1.1.6: Is there a minimum or maximum audience size?

We'll train any group of 5 or more people! That is, if at least 5 people are expected to show up, we'll do the training (even if less than 5 people are actually there on the day of). There's no maximum for in-person trainings, as long as everyone can access the content and we're not breaking fire code.

1.1.7: What if I don't have 5 people?

There are two solutions to this! First, you could invite your friends to bring your total numbers up to 5. (It doesn't have to be a formal affair; we've trained in people's living rooms before.)

Second, you could attend a regularly-scheduled virtual training event! On the events page, you can see every open-to-the-public training that's coming up. We plan to host these somewhat regularly, so even if you can't make the next one, you might be able to make it to the one after that.

Finally, if you still want some good information, but don't have enough people for a full-length training, consider hiring us for a one-hour consultation session. We can answer all of your questions in a more intimate setting and it's a lot less awkward than us doing a formal training for just two people.

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1.2.1: What is a virtual training?

A virtual training is one that we present via a meeting software (like Zoom), where every audience member is joining from their own device (and thus each have their own camera and mic). There's a chat where people can ask questions, there are audio controls, and there are ways to manage the experience with keystrokes and mouse clicks. If there's any difference from this regarding where people are and how they're joining, it's a hybrid training, which is detailed below.

1.2.2: Do you do hybrid trainings?

It depends what you mean. We've seen three main types:

Broadcast hybrid is where the two of us (Charlie and Stacy) are doing the training in the same room as the group, but part of the group is watching the training from a different location. There is literally no problem with this, as long as we don't have to broadcast it ourselves. If we do have to broadcast it ourselves, we can sort that out beforehand.

Postage stamp hybrid is where the training group is all in one room, and the two of us aren't. It's so named because our view of the entire room is condensed to the size of a postage stamp on our screen. This isn't ideal; we're projected as flat images, can't interact with the audience in a meaningful way, and don't get to optimize the setup of the room. It's possible to make this better, though. Using a good camera pointed closely at the audience, and a high-quality microphone that every audience members knows to approach and talk into when speaking, this can be a viable format.

Reverse hybrid is where we're in the same room as the tech person/training liaison, and the entire group of attendees is watching the training remotely, for some reason. Don't... don't do this. Please.

1.2.3: What platform do you prefer?

Zoom.

1.2.4: Would you rather make the link yourselves?

Yes.

1.2.5: But can I make the link myself?

Yes, but please ensure that live transcription/closed captioning is enabled. We may also ask for polls, breakout rooms, or other features depending on the training we're doing?

1.2.6: Is there a minimum or maximum audience size for virtual trainings?

The 5-person minimum for in-person trainings still holds here, but there's no real maximum. We'll note here that as virtual audience sizes surpass 50, the need for chat moderation starts becoming apparent. Whichever one of us isn't actively speaking will usually do it regardless, but it's always good to have someone from your group watch the chat too when there are that many attendees.

1.2.7: Are you okay with recordings of your training for those who couldn't make it to the session?

Yes, on two conditions:

These trainings change somewhat frequently. We're always working on ways to improve them, whether it's in terms of making them more interactive or updating them to stay with the times. For that reason, we don't really like having old recordings floating around, especially outside of the groups they were intended for. Plus, this is how we make a living, after all.

1.2.8: Can you make a video of the training instead?

In certain situations, yes! Now, it is always best for people to be able to attend the trainings in some way. The interactive component really helps with learning (as does having a real-life trans person there to answer questions), along with a whole host of other things that would be too long to list. That being said, sometimes a video is actually the best solution.

Sometimes, you can't schedule a decently-sized group all at the same time for a whole hour or two to do nothing but a training, and even if you can, you might not make a dent in the total amount of people who need the training. We've seen this in state correctional institutions, as well as in other organizations that either have a high turnover or maintain an intranet-based portal for their members.

At any rate, if a video is right for your group, let us know! It'll be more expensive than a regular training, since we'll have to take pains to personalize things and make them more engaging, but we'll put our hearts and souls into it to make sure it serves the purpose it needs to. (We've both sat through enough boring Zoom recordings to know that videos need to be structured differently to keep one's attention.)

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2.1.1: How do I schedule a training?

Fill out the form! We'll get in touch with you to iron out the time, date, and format. If you need some questions answered beforehand, just send both (or either) of us an email. Our addresses are stacy@transeducation.net and charlie@transeducation.net.

2.2.1: What days usually work best for you?

Any, really. We are very accommodating!

2.2.2: What about times?

Stacy: I'm not exactly a morning person. I try not to schedule anything before 11:00am Mountain Time if I can help it, but we work of off your schedule. If it has to be in the morning, it'll be in the morning—and by golly, it'll be a great training no matter what time it's at! If I'm the lead presenter (like for the #234), I'm more than happy to do an evening training!

Charlie: I prefer mornings if I'm the lead presenter (like for the #202). But really, any time works!

2.2.3: Can you do weekends?

Yes! We get asked for weekends seldom enough that we usually don't have to move anything around to accommodate it, either.

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2.3.1: Can you split a training into two halves?

We can and we have! All we ask is that each half is less than a week apart in time. If they're spaced out longer, the material starts to get difficult to remember when coming back.

2.3.2: Do you take questions during the training, or after?

Both, if it's a virtual training! We've tried to do both for in-person trainings sometimes, but that can lead to us running out of time, since we can't defer getting and subsequently answering the questions. If there are quick questions for clarity during the training, then that's alright. However, for longer questions, we always make sure there's time at the end for questions.

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3.1.1: Do you charge taxes?

Yes, for in-state customers! It's usually 7.625% in Albuquerque. If you provide us with a Type 5 NTTC, we'll happily remove the tax from our invoices for you!

For in-person or virtual trainings in New Mexico but outside Albuquerque, please check this map provided by New Mexico Taxation & Revenue.

Tax is calculated after adding mileage (if any).

3.1.2: So, you charge for mileage?

Yes, $0.63 per mile if it's an in-person training outside the Albuquerque metro area! If the address is in Albuquerque, Rio Rancho, Bernalillo, Placitas, Corrales, Los Ranchos de Albuquerque, Carnuel, or the South Valley, no mileage will be charged. The number of miles can be calculated by opening up your favorite navigation app, entering "Albuquerque" as your start point, entering your address as the end point, and then doubling the resulting number of miles.

3.1.3: Can I seriously get a free training?

If you're a small business, the family of a trans person, or a group composed primarily of marginalized identities that would not otherwise be able to access a training due to financial barriers, yes! Our Redistribution Fund exists to allow us to do trainings at zero cost to the group receiving them. Be sure to contact us to inquire about the availability of funds for your group.

3.1.4: Can I put money into the Redistribution Fund?

Indeed, you can! Go to the TNET Store to do that.

3.1.5: Does the standard $300-$600 rate scale with audience size?

Nope. Whether it's for 5 people or 100 people, it's the same price. Again, you can always pay us more if you really want to.

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3.2.1: Do you take cards? Checks? Cash?

Yes, yes, and yes! We use Stripe to enable payment by card. If you want to pay by check, you can send it to us in the mail. And if it's an in-person training, you can hand us the cash after the training if you have it!

3.2.2: What are your payment methods in order of preference?

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4.1: Do you offer CEUs? CMEs? CLEs?

We can, if your organization accredits us! We have our résumés and learning objectives all fired up and ready to go. Apart from that, though, we're not independently accredited.

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Want to find out how to make your business or group more trans-friendly? Need some recommendations for policy, or some professional trans people to take a look at your intake paperwork? Book a meeting with us, and we'll sit down with you in person (if you're in or near the Albuquerque area) or on Zoom (anywhere)!

This is the typical flow of our business consulting services:

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TNET offers peer support* (via Zoom only) for friends and family of trans folks! Book an hour to sit down with us where you can ask us questions using the language you know, with the assurance that we'll meet you where you're at. This is an opportunity to gain a better understanding of transness in a judgment-free zone. We'd be happy to talk out situations with you and offer other types of support, such as...

As two professional trans people, we can utilize our insight and lived experience to help strengthen acceptance and foster understanding. Our goal is to leave you feeling more supported and less alone in your relationship with your trans loved one!

*This is not a replacement for therapy or other mental health services.
All peer support sessions are confidential.

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#101: Transgender Cultural Fluency (Outline)

This training covers the following:

#101 Learning Objectives

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#123: School Best Practices for Trans/Nonbinary Students (Outline)

This training covers the following:

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#131: Consent, Boundaries, Gender, and You (Outline)

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#144: Tucking & Binding Safely and Effectively (Outline)

This workshop covers the following:

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#178: Gender Outside the Binary (Outline)

This training covers the following:

#178 Learning Objectives

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#202: Have Your Trans Intersectionality and Eat It Too (Outline)

This training covers the following:

#202 Learning Objectives

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#234: Busting the Binary in the English Language (Outline)

This workshop covers the following:

#234 Learning Objectives

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#249: Gender Exploration with Young People (Outline)

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#M01: Preparing Patients for Life After Vaginoplasty
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Oh, hey, you actually followed the link! We're not done with the annotated bibliography yet. Check back soon and hopefully it'll be up.

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For now, here's an incomplete list of our cited sources.

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Here's how my name, Stacy Fatemi, is pronounced:

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If that audio file doesn't work for you, here are some ways you might be able to figure out how to pronounce it.

Here's how my name, Charlie Alexander, is pronounced:

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In the International Phonetic Alphabet, my pronunciation of "Charlie Alexander" would be written [ˈt͡ʃɑːɹɫi ˌæɫɪɡˈzæːndɚ].

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Saturday, July 15th, 2023
12:00pm–1:00pm Mountain Time (convert timezone)

#101: Transgender Cultural Fluency

Presented by Stacy Fatemi & Charlie Alexander

The tried and true workhorse of trans education! Even old pros can learn a thing or two from this training. We'll cover everything you need to know from the ground up, get a little bit of practice in, and learn how we can all be better advocates. This is the 1-hour version of the #101, so come and get a taste!

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Wednesday, May 17, 2023
6:00pm–8:00pm Mountain Time (convert timezone)

#101: Transgender Cultural Fluency

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The tried and true workhorse of trans education! Even old pros can learn a thing or two from this training. We'll cover everything you need to know from the ground up, get a little bit of practice in, and learn how we can all be better advocates. Audience interaction is encouraged, especially in the first half hour. There will be a 5-minute intermission, and questions will be answered!

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Monday, April 17, 2023
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#234: Busting the Binary in the English Language

Presented by Stacy Fatemi

Make gender-neutral language a habit in your everyday speech with this workshop! We'll be learning a couple dozen different strategies, including how to use specific pronouns like xe/xym, how to talk about nonbinary people (and anyone whose gender you don't know), a plethora of alternatives to various forms of address, and even ways to correct misgenderings!

NEW: There's now a worksheet you can fill out during the workshop, so you can do the activities on your own and get all the practice you can get! You'll receive a link to it in the same email that the Zoom link comes in. Register early so you can print it out (if you want), or fill it out digitally on your web browser or PDF viewer!

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Wednesday, April 5, 2023
6:00pm–8:00pm Mountain Time (convert timezone)

#101: Transgender Cultural Fluency

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Saturday, March 11, 2023
12:00pm–2:00pm Mountain Time (convert timezone)

#101: Transgender Cultural Fluency

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Tuesday, February 28, 2023
7:00pm–9:00pm Mountain Time (convert timezone)

#234: Busting the Binary in the English Language

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Sunday, February 12, 2023
11:00am–1:00pm Mountain Time (convert timezone)

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